Welcome To (Grand)Parenthood

A 2016 report by the Associated Press stated that 2.7 million grandparents are raising grandchildren, and about one-fifth of those have incomes that fall below the poverty line, according to census figures. Their ranks are increasing.

At the time the article was written, the number of grandparents raising grandchildren was up seven percent from 2009, and the trend is holding.

Grandparents generally don’t imagine themselves parenting an additional generation of children. Quite often, grandparents find themselves in that situation because the parents – their own children – struggle with addiction, mental illness, and incarceration among other issues. Regardless of how grandparents find themselves parenting again, the same challenges of raising kids they once faced still exist, and new challenges have been layered on top.

One of those challenges can be raising a child experiencing mental illness, and a grandparent-as-parent may face unique barriers in caring for his or her grandchild. We offer the tips below to help grandparents navigate the new, sometimes-frightening, often-confusing waters they may find themselves in.

  • Seek out every resource for support, information and guidance you can. Elder Options of Texas provides a lengthy list of organizations (and links to their websites) that offer help specifically to grandparents raising grandchildren.
  • Try to foster good, strong relationships with your grandchildren. Studies suggest that for grandparents and other grandchildren, good relationships can prevent the likelihood of experiencing depression.
  • Unless the child’s parent(s) sign a power of attorney giving you the power to say where the child lives and to make decisions for the child, you must go to court to get custody over a grandchild.
  • AARP has compiled resource listings called “Grand Facts” specific to each state. Access the Texas sheet here.

Make Mental Health a Priority

Perhaps first and foremost, we also strongly encourage grandparents to learn how to recognize the signs and symptoms of mental illness in children. It is not unusual for the children of addicts or those who have experience trauma to suffer from a mental illness. Some of the behaviors to be on the lookout for include:

  • Feeling very sad or withdrawn for more than two weeks, crying regularly, and feeling tired and unmotivated.
  • Sudden overwhelming fear for no reason, sometimes with a racing heart, physical discomfort, or fast breathing
  • Severe mood swings that cause problems in relationships
  • Drastic changes in behavior, personality or sleeping habits (e.g., waking up early and acting agitated)
  • Intense worries or fears that get in the way of daily activities like hanging out with friends or going to classes
  • Extreme difficulty in concentrating or staying still
  • Not eating or doing things to cause themselves to throw up; significant gain or loss in weight
  • Out-of-control, risk-taking behaviors that can cause harm to themselves or others
  • Repeated use of drugs or alcohol
  • Trying to harm or kill oneself or making plans to do so

Finally, be easy on yourself as you undertake another generation of parenting. You will make mistakes as we all do, but you are the best demonstration of love and commitment to your grandchildren.

For hope and healing,
Mike Hannan


In case of a medical emergency, please call 911. For a child’s mental health emergency (ages 3 to 17), call Clarity Child Guidance Center at 210-582-6412. Our crisis service department accepts walk-ins 24/7. You can find directions to our campus here. Please do not hesitate to reach out to us.  We are here to help!

  • Clarity Child Guidance Center is the only nonprofit mental health treatment center for kids ages 3 to 17 in South Texas. Our staff of children’s mental health professionals is the largest in the region. When a child is in crisis, we work with families to get much needed treatment regardless of their ability to pay.

The opinions, representations and statements made within this guest article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of One in Five Minds or Clarity Child Guidance Center. Any copyright remains with the author and any liability with regard to infringement of intellectual property rights remain with them. One in Five Minds and Clarity Child Guidance Center accepts no liability for any errors, omissions or representations.

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